"Labelling" is "Passive Bullying"

Hello good morning, friends!

Today, I'm reflecting on my mirror in my room and try to flashback about some mistakes that I had been before. Some mistakes that disturb myself development. In my age now, I'm 20 years old, its kind a hard thing while you can't find your own self. That's I am, I never really know who is me and I can't even understand what's going on in me. And it's desperate thing while you have a problem and you don't know to solve the problem. Disaster!

Several weeks ago, I tried to meet a psychologist and tell about my problems and actually in my age, I have found my own self. But, while I still have this problem, so I have to find my true self as fast as possible that I can. I'm busying my day to flashback what I wanna be in my childhood, searching about how to find your own self, how to create your character, and as long as my research, the best thing to do is find your favorite things and go ahead. Just focus with something that you love so much!

But I have some tragedies in my favorite things. An example, I really love singing. I'm a member of my college choir, I know that I'm good enough, but I know I'm not excellent one. And I never learn about singing or vocalizing specially. One day, my college is looking for a singer for an event in our office. And my college has a favorite singer, she's my friend, called Regina. And when Regina got an offers to become a singer in that event, she tried to offers me. I wanna try, but people didn't want to make a trial. They wanna show, not a free trial for me. So I got a rejection at that time. Okay, that's one.

The second one is when I wanna sing in our dinner in college, we also have mini show when Friday dinner, and the one who has authority for that mini show didn't allow me to sing. And he just allowed Regina to sing from my grade. Unfortunately, I'm not the one who struggle with what I love. Since that time, I stop to sing. Stupid!

Until when I'm in third grade in college, I had a same room in Regina. And she knew that I love singing, until she said that "why don't you take a vocal class? Your voice is good" and i just said "i'm too old to start vocal class, and I'm just singing for my happiness, not for show".
Do you know why I'm feeling so this stupid?

Because i stop to be myself. I know who I am, and I know what I wanna be. I have so many dreams, big dreams before. But everything's like disappear because of "labelling". So today I'll share something about "labelling". Because labelling is kind of passive bullying.

In psychology glossary, labeling theory explains how the identity and behavior of people are influenced by how society has classified them. According to the labeling theory, an individual who commits actions that are frowned upon by society, becomes regarded as a criminal or a deviant only when he is labeled as such. For some people, being labeled as a deviant actually encourages them to behave in ways that are consistent with the label. For example, a teenager who is caught cutting class and labeled as a delinquent, may be less motivated to attend class, thinking that there's no point in making an effort to attend class as no one expects him to be there anyway. Having skipped class, he is then unaware of assigned homework, and so fails to turn in his assignment, thus propagating the idea of being a delinquent student.

And the definition of bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior among school aged children that involves a real or perceived power imbalance. The behavior is repeated, or has the potential to be repeated, over time. That’s why I said labelling is kind of passive bullying, because it harms other's feeling and potential to be repeated, it will make someone become unwanted and make people losing their identity. Why? Because they're to be like that, negative one.

So, c'mon guys! Through this writings, I ask you to stop bullying, especially labelling for others, but maybe it's potentially make confuse for the victims and can't find their own self then stop to improve their potential.